Well hello there. It’s been a long time since I shared my musings with the world … or at least, those who find it and read it.
I dont know about you but I find myself thinking about what has been in my life in the past, the times I was selfish, the times I was unkind, the times I pursued only what I wanted. It took some very traumatic events to start the change in me and from the perspective of my sixth decade here, I have been looking back over what happened. I still do not understand all that happened but I am at the point of letting it all go.
This xmas is my last xmas. At least, I like to think of it that way. In reality, I think last xmas was truly my last xmas. And by last xmas, I do not mean I am about to die, but no-one truly knows about that, do they? I mean it in the sense that I am letting go of all my past xmas’ , all the feeling alone, all the “I don’t want to celebrate it” etc. This year I am living this xmas as if it were my last but in reality it is a new start. It is the start of a new tradition. I am celebrating the Yuletime tradition of the Winter Festival with xmas right in the middle of it.
Why am I doing this? I am doing this because I owe it to myself to finally let the past go and to not focus on the future. A character in a film I watched recently said, “now is a gift that’s why it’s called the present” and it has taken me longer than it should to learn to live my life in the now and to focus on what I am doing. I am rediscovering my love of writing in all forms, hence the renewal of my blog. In a way, restarting the blog owes a great deal to the author Lee Winter who created a fictional blog for one of her characters in the book ‘The Brutal Truth’. (I highly recommend it )
The onset of an untreatable medical condition that is ultimately fatal has been a big thing in my life since I found out I had it in December 2019. Coming to terms with the loss of mobility during the pandemic was quite difficult. The pandemic and its toll on the NHS has resulted in less than optimum care but that has been made worse by the increase in lack of mobility. I’m not complaining, it is what it is. I can live with it although it did take me a long time to finally realise that there were things I’d never do again. I also had to say good bye to some of the things I would have liked to do. Well, in theory I would – in practice? I’m not so sure. One of the things I have realised is that I like being at home and doing things where I am comfortable.
I can’t complain. I’ve seen many things I wanted to see, some of which I didn’t know I wanted to see! I’ve travelled on the Canadian inter continental train, I’ve been in a sea plane, I’ve been on Eurostar, I’ve seen the European Union sites in Belgium and Strasbourg, I’ve enjoyed Paris several times with different people. In many ways, I have led a fulfilling life but one always tends to look at the bad things that happened and not the good tings. At least, I have. Now I am looking for the positives in my life, the good times, the challenges faced and overcome and I have decided that these things need celebrating. They are triumphs to be thankful for. So this year, the Yuletide xmas is the start of something new. The seeds of it started with my birthday and have blossomed into this new resolution to celebrate my successes in life, however small and however hidden from general knowledge. They are a real possession in the changing fortunnes of time.
I have decided to live in the now. The uncertainty of a future with an untreatable medical condition and the pandemic forces me to realise that my tomorrows are not a given. I intend to greet each new day with gratitude, to be present in each moment of each day and hope that I can be an influence on others.
If there is one life lesson I would share, it is be kind. I have benefitted from the kindness of others and not always recognised or appreciated it at the time. But it stuck with me and has led, ultimately, to me realising that in truth, the fullest expression of love is to be kind to others, especially strangers. Those random acts of kindness really do change the world. So, as this xmas time approaches, look for the opportunities to be kind to others, especially strangers, and do what you can to light up someone else’s world. Be the Light of the World to those around you.